learning by how you live by

lately ni rasa cam takde mood and malas nak membelog. i hope it's temporary because other than this, i have no other means of jotting down the goods and the bads, the sweets and the sours bla bla bla. except in this little brain of mine, which is getting forgetful anyway. i was clearing-up my e-mailbox just now. you know, to be more organised and systematic. i stumbled upon a mail which i've been keeping since 2000. i do not know whether it was actually written by the sender or merely copied from somewhere but it's very relevant, i think. so i am sharing it here.

If a child lies with criticism, he learns to condemn
If a child lives with hostility, he learns violence
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice
If a child lives with security, he learns faith
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to love the world

i'd like to add one of the principles i've been holding on to, where it concerns the upbringing of Kakak and Iman
they will most likely do what we do. they don't really do what we tell them to do without us doing it.


so friends, the choice is yours.

if the power trips (like it did few days back), i learn to appreciate this forsaken candle